We all wear masks. I'm not referring to our Covid face masks. Rather, the masks we use to emotionally protect ourselves.
Sometimes, when we feel interpersonally uncomfortable we may falsely present ourselves.
This defensive style often begins early in our lives. After years of repetition we hardly know we're being "fake." Many of us experience conflict when we don't feel authentic. Our goal as therapists is to help you grow closer to your "true self."
Protecting ourselves is a natural part of human interaction. Defensiveness, however, can become burdensome and sometimes exhausting. Anger, sadness and isolation occur when our relationships feel false. Eventually, we may even believe that no one loves or cares about the "real" you. After all you haven't shared intimacy in a long time.
Ultimately, hiding who you are and how you feel from others leads to superficial relationships, conflict avoidance, and isolation. All of which prevent us from feeling close and fulfilled in our personal
interactions.
How can therapy help?
By becoming more self-aware through self-reflection. This process can seem daunting but with an empathic
ear and direction, you will make great advancements. Therapy teaches you how to better identify your feelings while normalizing your experiences.
Counseling will help you address your conflict directly within a safe and nurturing environment. The therapeutic relationship fosters self-acceptance especially of your flaws. All of these techniques lead
to a greater sense of contentment and more fulfilling relationships.