It seems with the advent of spring individuals think about all of the things they want to change in their life. Call it self spring cleaning. We look at our romances and decide whether it needs refreshing or a whole new look. If you’re single, you may hope that this spring or summer you’ll meet someone special. No way do you want to go through another summer without that someone special by your side.
However, it’s pretty difficult to conjure up a significant relationship without some new ideas. Where do you meet that special someone? Should you look online, depend on friends to set you up, or simply rely on meeting someone in the bar when you’re out with your friends. Today it seems ever more diffiuclt to meet people when we’re out. After all they could be a stalker - even though there really aren’t that many of those.
Wherever you meet that new individual you run the risk of being attracted to the same type of person or the exact opposite of our last fiasco. Instead, how about you work on changing the parts of yourself that keep attracting the worst person possible. Things may seem great in the beginning, they always do, however, as the relationship develops you begin to realize you’re upset.
The issues you fight about may have changed but the way in which you resolve the conflict remained the same. Maybe, you avoid saying how you feel until things get so bad that you just explode. Or, you find that you engage in behaviors that purposely piss off your partner. Why can’t you just stop and feel better about each other!
We spend a great deal of time getting ourselves in physical shape for bikini season. But, don’t pay attention to getting our relationship skills in shape for dating season. You might think you don’t need to change yourself instead you just need the right partner. Why keep spending time investing in relationships that will end up with the same outcome. Take charge of yourself and your emotional health by uncovering your unhealthy patterns. Rather, learn some healthy interpersonal skills and try them out along with your new toned body this spring!
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